"He Wins, She Wins," by Willard F. Harley, Jr.

"He Wins, She Wins," by Willard F. Harley, Jr.

Every conflict in your marriage is an opportunity to fall more deeply in love.
You've probably heard a lot of advice on how to resolve conflicts in your marriage. What you may not know is that if a resolution comes only in order to keep the peace, it's no resolution at all. Marriage expert Willard F. Harley, Jr., says there's a better way.

What's different about the He Wins, She Wins approach is the ultimate goal--for you and your spouse to grow in your love for each other. This win-win model for negotiation starts with a simple rule: Never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse.

Think that sounds impossible? In this book, Dr. Harley will show you how it's been done in his marriage of over fifty years--and in the marriages of the thousands of couples he's counseled. He'll explain the art of marital negotiation, show you how to resolve common conflicts the right way, and help you overcome these common obstacles:

· emotional reactions are preventing calm discussion
· neither of you wants to talk about an issue
· one or both of you are indecisive
· one of you is happy with the status quo
· being enthusiastic about anything doesn't seem possible

And above all, he'll show you how every decision you make together will increase your love for each other.

I ordered this book by mistake.  This is not really my "type" of book.  However I figured to be fair I would give it a go and see if I could learn anything after 30 years of a reasonably successful marriage.

The book is split into three sections; The Art of Marital Negotiation, Resolving Common Marital Conflicts with Negotiation and Common Problems with Marital Conflict Resolution.  I felt each section had parts with are applicable for all stages of marriage, whether newlyweds or couples who have been married 50 years.  Also each section had problems and solutions for situations you encounter throughout your married lives.  For example, who hasn't had conflicts over friends and relatives, or children?

The one thing the author does refer to time and time again is his website Marriage Builders, which delves further into what covers this book and other parts of day to day living.

Stars out of 5 : 4 Did I learn anything; yes, but each couple has their own way of dealing with things and what works for some doesn't work for others.  Will you learn anything by reading this book; I think you will.  So would I tell you to buy or borrow this book, yes as it doesn't do any harm to have a refresher of the way of negotiating situations in your marriage.

"Book has been provided courtesy of Baker Publishing Group and Graf-Martin Communications, Inc.

Available at your favourite bookseller from Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group".